tommythumbs asked: You ever sleep with a girl and get too attached and end up blowing it. I hope I don't blow this one by caring so damn much. I can't get her outta my head. Idk what to do??
Here “Too often… that is correct. The person who cares the least with put forth the least effort… while the person who does care will try harder and harder to compensate…
"Power" is a strong word… and the degree of it that a person will have in a relationship just depends on where the other person draws the line…right?
Some people, no matter how much more they may care, have enough dignity and self respect as to not be treated otherwise by a partner who cares the least… and therefore, how much power does the ‘least’ really have..?
And then, of course, there’s the other end of that extreme… whereas people endure an offal lot just to avoid the pain of loss. Women (and men) spend years in abusive relationships, feeling completely powerless.
And lastly I suppose… there are those relationships where all is NOT what it seems… Sometimes, the one who is appearing to care the least, and seems to have all the power… just needs his/her bluff called. These are the ones that will cry and beg the hardest for the other not to leave them. Hmm…. I say ‘respect’ should have meant something to that person long before it came to that. But, that’s another subject altogether…”
Wow Alex Olson, spot on 👏👏👏👌